Tom and Julie Meekins
Points to Ponder:
Children are not little adults. Whether typically developing or with developmental challenges, children do not process the same way we do. They do not have the benefit of years lived and therefore the scope of experiences that we do. We believe this is a very important understanding to have as we go about the mammoth task of raising children. We often expect things they cannot deliver because they are not at the level of understanding of adults.
Children are sponges. All children have an innate desire to learn. What a joy is ours to expose our kids (all of them) to new experiences and challenges. There is nothing like watching the wonder on a child’s face when children get the privilege of a new experience. Also, let’s not be afraid to try to teach a new skill just because a child has a label or a diagnosis.
Children need discipling. Notice that we chose to use the word “disciple” rather than discipline. As parents, we are bombarded with all kinds of methods of discipline to potentially use on our kids. Some of these methods can be damaging to the hearts and minds and spirits of children. Family members, acquaintances, and even perfect strangers have opinions on how children should act and are too often ready to give uninvited advice. When most people think of discipline, they think of the resulting action after a person has messed up.There is a strong sense of punishment. To disciple a child is to teach them. We cannot just assume that they understand. We need to be willing to repeat in a loving way what we expect. We want to do our best to make sure the child truly understands what we are expecting. Too often, as adults, we expect a certain behavior from children that we have not yet taken adequate time to properly teach. It is not about whether we taught something. It is all about whether the child has caught it.
Children are forgiving. We all mess up. We, as parents, are often afraid that we will damage our kids for life when we are impatient, or make a decision that ends up not being the best action plan. When we are in the activities of everyday life with children – no matter their age or abilities, life can be stressful. We often have more to do than the hours in a day. So much happens that we cannot anticipate. Crazy things happen that you may be able to laugh about later, but in the moment – not so much. So, unfortunately we are human and, therefore, we WILL be impatient. We WILL make decisions that could have been better. You can create an environment of humility and forgiveness in your home. It starts with you.
So, what can a parent do?
Parent in love. Just love and enjoy our children.
Pray and ask for wisdom from the God who made and loves our children and us.
Consult the Bible. It is the best Life Manual and Parenting Manual there is for spiritual guidance!
Ask our children (and God) for forgiveness often and sincerely.
Endeavor to disciple (teach) our children and be willing to do it over and over and over again.
Expose our children to new experiences and make it fun. Look for what may strike their interest and go for it.
Be thankful for all of our children no matter their abilities or disabilities.
Don’t do it alone. Find a supportive friend, family member, and/or group.
Let us know if you would like to discuss these things more or if you have any questions or ideas. We would love to hear from you.
Much love,
Tom and Julie
____________________
Tom and Julie Meekins
Champions4Parents.com
HERE’S HOW YOU CAN CONNECT WITH US:
We invite you to connect with Tom, Julie, and Amy through:
Email: champions4parents@gmail.com
Phone: 410-746-9010
Facebook: www.facebook.com/Champions4Parents/
Don’t forget our website: www.champions4parents.com
